Husband Goes Viral with Epic Obituary for Wife After 36 Years Together: ‘I Don’t Want Her Story to Be Gone, Too’ (Exclusive)
Husband Goes Viral with Epic Obituary for Wife After 36 Years Together: ‘I Don’t Want Her Story to Be Gone, Too’ (Exclusive)
David ChiuFri, August 28, 2026 at 5:37 PM UTC
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(L-R) Elise Cawley and Stephen WolframCredit: Stephen Wolfram -
Elise Cawley, a mathematician and academic, died unexpectedly on July 25 at the age of 64
Her husband, computer scientist Stephen Wolfram, wrote and published a heartfelt obituary that has moved online readers
“It’s always nice if the things one writes or does have a positive effect on people,” Wolfram tells PEOPLE
A renowned computer scientist and tech entrepreneur penned a epic obituary for his beloved wife, touching hearts around the internet in the process.
“My general point of view was, ‘Elise is gone, That’s terrible. I don’t want her story to be gone, too. So I should try and write what I can about it,’ ” Stephen Wolfram, the founder and CEO of Wolfram Research, tells PEOPLE.
What followed was a nearly 4,800-word tribute for mathematician and academic Elise Cawley, which included a photo taken just hours before she died on July 25 at the age of 64.
“Somehow in the shock of what has happened it feels as if I just met Elise, and now she is gone,” he wrote, in part. “But actually there were 36 wonderful years in between, in which my life was lit up by Elise’s intellect, love and energy.”
Although Wolfram has previously shared his thoughts related to his field online, for privacy reasons, he rarely addressed his family life. That changed when Cawley died suddenly as she was recovering from heart surgery.
“Generally people’s reaction has been surprisingly positive,” Wolfram, 66, of Concord, Mass., tells PEOPLE. “It’s not like this is my first writing rodeo, but this is a different kind of writing than I’ve been used to.”
The piece, which reads more like a love story than a typical death notice, details both the life they shared together as well as Cawley’s lifelong passion for mathematics.
“She liked the abstract aesthetics of math,” Wolfram tells PEOPLE. “Math is very clean and beautiful for people who do it as a kind of abstract activity.”
“The elementary math people do in school is not that way,” he adds. “But by the time you get to a certain level of math, it becomes this kind of elegant aesthetic activity.”
Elise CawleyCredit: Stephen Wolfram
The two first met in 1990 at a mutual friend’s apartment in New York City — a connection that crystalized when Wolfram flew from New York to Illinois to see Cawley after she had a mishap involving contact lens solution and hydrogen peroxide.
“I’m like, ‘Okay, then I’ll come rescue you,’ “ he recalls. “It probably sounds more chivalrous than it felt at the time.”
The couple married in 1994 and went on to raise four children.
In addition to mathematics, Cawley excelled at interior design. She shaped the look of the family’s early home in Hinsdale, Ill., and at another residence when they later relocated to Concord, Mass.
One of the stories not mentioned in the obituary involved a total solar eclipse visible from Mexico in 1991 that prompted the couple and several of their friends to take a trip there.
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“We landed on this little airstrip and there’s this beautiful beach with nobody on it,” he remembers. “We hung out on the beach and watched this eclipse, which was really cool.”
But an interaction that followed was what made the moment stand out so much in his mind.
“Elise gave me a hard time for years and years afterwards,” he says, “because once the eclipse was done, it was like, ‘Okay, let’s go home,” as opposed to, “Let’s hang out on this very beautiful beach on the Mexican coast.’”
(L-R) Elise Cawley and Stephen WolframCredit: Stephen Wolfram
With the assistance of the couple’s youngest daughter Elizabeth, Wolfram took about three days to write Cawley’s obituary.
He says it’s been nice to see people respond by saying “how great Elise was” and even share stories about his wife that he didn’t know.
“Of course it emphasizes, ‘Hey, it would’ve been nice if she’d known that while she was alive,’ but that’s the way it goes,” he says. “I would’ve loved to write this piece while she was still alive, but she would’ve been completely mortified.”
Overall, he says it just feels nice knowing that what he wrote has has a positive impact on people.
“That feels good to me,” he says. “And a bunch of the comments were kind of, ‘I’ll pay more attention to my spouse now’ type thing.”
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Although Wolfram says he makes a point to not get hung up on what’s popular on social media, he says he’s actually been reading the hundreds of comments — but, there’s a reason for that.
“I’ve been collecting them for my children,” he explains.
For Wolfram, Cawley’s death has been the sole tragedy in his life and hopefully the only one. As he makes clear in his tribute, it was a great 36 years of marriage.
“Elise gave me a hard time for decades about the fact that I don’t read fiction because I’m always like, ‘I’ve got something else to do. I’m not going to read this,’ ” he says. “She was interested in the descriptions of people and so on. If I succeeded in capturing her well in this piece, I’ll be happy. Based on the reactions of lots of people who knew her, it seems to have worked, so that’s nice.”
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